Category: character

Escape the Desperation Trap: Find Your Confidence Today…

My Traveling Friends, there was a man named Jack who felt really desperate in his life. He had lost just lost his job, his family was struggling, and he didn’t have enough money topay the bills. Every day felt like a race against time, and he didn’t know how to make things better. He started to feel like there was no hope and no way out of his situations.

Guys, this story made be fiction, and yet for millions of individuals this is the story of their life. There are individuals out there that have just lost their jobs, struggling to make ends meet, going through a divorce, dating and so badly wanting to be married, etc… And they are allowing the feelings of desperation dictate their behaviors, which is creating and recreating a life that continues to feel hopeless.

Is this your story too? Have you ever felt like Jack? What did you do to try to fix it? Or maybe you didn’t have a clue where to start.

If you are reading this blog that means it found you and this information will be the start of you seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Let’s talk…

Being desperate means feeling like you need something so babdly that you’ll do almost anything to get it. It’s when you feel like you have no options left and you’re willing to take any chance to fix your problem. Being desperate in life maeans feeling trapped and hopless in different parts of your life. It can make you do things that aren’t good for you because you’re trying to solve your problems quickly. All in an effort to get out of the pain of desperation.

Let’s look at some examples:

  1. Career: Imagine you’re working really hard at your job, but you’re not getting the promotion you desire. You start feeling desperate. You just might quit your jobs without having another job lined up or you may start taking on too much work trying to impress your boss.
  2. Friendship Issues: If you’re feeling lonely, you might do anything to make friends. This could mean
  3. Money Problems: Imagine you really need money to pay for something important. You might take a job you don’t like or even think about borrowing money frompeople you shouldn’t, just to solve the problem fast.

One big belief that makes people act desperately is thinking, “I’m not good enough.” When you believe this, you feel like you have to prove yourself all the time, which can lead to making bad choice just to show that you’re worthy and to get approval from others.

Feeling desperate can make life really hard and it doesn’t have to be a part of your life forever. You can learn how to handle tough situations better and make smarter decisions by working with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. The Confidence Mindset Program is a 1-on-1 coaching program that will cause you to challenge your belief systems that are holding you back and empower you with prinicples that will teach you how to control your emotions, believe in yourself, and find better solutions when life gets hard.

Ready to stop feeling desperate and startfeeling confident?

Don’t let desperation control your life. Schedule a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program – click the link http://www.lifeisbutajourney.com and start learning how to make better decisions and feel good about yourself. You deserve to feel confident and happy. Schedule your consultation today and start your journey to a better life…

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey

Forgiveness of Self: The Path to Healing and Growth

My Traveling Friends, forgiveness of self is one of the most powerful yet challenging journeys you will embark upon. It’s an act of courage, compassion, and deep inner work that will transform your lives. At least that is what I experience when I took the challenging journey of forgiving myself of the past hurt that I caused to myself. And it is for this reason that I want to explore why self-forgiveness is essential, what might hold us back, and how we can begin this transformative process.

I am curious, have you ever held onto guilt or regret for something you did in the past? How did it affect your daily life and your self-esteem? I ask these questions because I myself held onto guilt for something that Idiin the past and because of the guilt it was hard for memto hold my head up high, it was hard for me to see myself the way God sees me. And out of that guilt I did not make wise decision for my life. Forgiveness was to key to my freedom, and forgiveness is the key to your freedom too.

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Breaking Barriers:Your Roadmap to Conquering Life’s Challenges

Life is a journey filled with twists, turns, and unexpected roadblocks. At times, it can feel like we’re navigating a maze of challenges, each obstacle testing our resolve and determination. Yet, it’s often these very obstacles that hold the key to our growth, resilience, and ultimate success. In this fast-paced world, mastering the art of overcoming obstacles is not just a skill – it’s a mindset that can propel you toward success and fulfillment. In this post I dive into the art of overcoming obstacles – the strategies, the pitfalls, and the transformative power that lies within each hurdle. Whether yu’re facing a career setback, a personal struggle, or a dream that seems just out of reach, take a ride on a journey of discoverys as I uncover the secrets to conquering life’s challenges and emerging stronger on the other side.

My Traveling Friend, have you ever faced a seemingly insurmountable obstacle and wondered how to conquer it? Maybe it was a career challenge, a personal struggle, or a goal that felt out of reach. Overcoming obstacles is a crucial skill that can and will transform yur life and lead you to success. But how exactly can you, my traveling friend, navigate these hurdles effectively?

Ready to emabrace the challenge and emerge stronger than ever? Then, let’s dive in!

Think about a time when you faced a major obstacle. What was your initial reaction, and how did you eventually overcome it?

What stategies did you use to overcome the obstacle, and what did you learn from that experience?

When someone tackles obstacles in a healthy manner, they often exhibit resilience, creativity, and perseverance. They don’t let setbacks define them but rather use them as steppingstones toward growth and achievement. Healthy overcoming of obstacles involves self-reflection, learning from mistakes, and maintaining a positive mindset throughtout the process.

Overcoming obstacles in a healthy manner offers a multitude of benefits that can significantly impact an individual’s life. First and foremost, it fosters personal rowth by challenging individuals to develop new skills, deepen self-awareness, and enance problem-solving abilities. This growth isn’t just about overcoming specific obstacles but also about evolving into a more resilient and adaptable person overall. Additionally, successfully navigating obstacles brings a profound sense of achievement, boosting confidence and motivation to tackle even greater challenges. It cultivates resilience, teaching individuals how to bounce back from setbacks stronger and more capable than before. Moreover, each obstacle conquered opens up new opportunities, expands networks, and broadens perspectives, ultimately leading to more fulfilling and meaningful life journey.

When it comes to overcoming obstacles, there are three commom mistakes that individuals often make. The first is ignoring the problem altogether, either out of fear, avoidance, or denial. By failing to acknowledge and adressing the obstacle, individuals hinder their progress and may find themselves stuck in a cycle of frustration. The second mistake is a lack of planning or strategy. Jumping into overcoming obstacles without a clear plan can lead to wasted effort, ineffective solutions, and unnecessary setbacks. Finally, negative self-talk and limiting beliefs can be significant barriers. Allowing negative thoughts to dominate can undermine confidence, motivation, and resilience, making it harder to overcome obstacles in a healthy and effective manner.

Imagine facing a daunting obstacle, feeling unsure of how to proceed. I’ve been there, and I understand the challenges firsthand. But with the right approach, you can turn challenges into steppingstones toward success. That’s why I want to share with you a 4 step startegy that has been a game-changer for me and my clients. It’s about breaking down barriers, crafting a plan that works for you, staying adaptable, and reaching out for support when needed. Here is the 4 step strategy to overcome obstacles:

  1. Define the Obstacle: Clearly identify the obstacle that you are facing and understand its impact on your goals.
  2. Create a Plan: Develop a step-by-step plan outlining how you will tackle the obstacle, including potential roadblocks and solutions.
  3. Stay Flexible: Be open to adjusting your plan as needed and embracing alternative approaches if initial strategies don’t yield results.
  4. Seek Support: Don’t hesitate to seek advice, guidance, or support from mentors, coaches, or peers who can offer fresh perspectives and encouragement.

Let me introduce you to James, a client who went through the Confidence Mindset Program and gained the tools he needed to overcome life’s obstacles. James faced significant challenges in his career and personal life, leading to self-doubt and stagnation. Through my 1-on-1 coaching program, he gained clarity, developed resilience strategies, and transfomed his mindset. Today, James is thriving in his career, pursing his passions, and inspiring others with his journey.

Now, it’s your turn – let me ask you again: Have you ever faced a seemingly insurmountable obstacle and wondered how to conquer it? Maybe you didn’t have know how to conquer it. Are you ready to overcome the obstacles that yu are facingand unlock your full potential? Let me help you.

Invest in yurself today by scheduling a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program. You don’t have to struggle alone, let me help you by guiding you on a transformative journey toward success and fulfillment. Click on the link: http://www.lifeisbutajourney.com to schedule your consultation call today.

Again, whether you’re facing a career setback, personal struggle, or a dream that seems just out of reach, the Confidence Mindset Program can empoweryou with the tools you need to uncover the secrets to conquering life’s challenges and emerging stronger on the other side.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

Breaking the Habit of Generalizing People and Experiences

My Traveling Friends, have you ever caught yourself making sweeping statements about a group of people or assuming that one experience defines an entire category? Well, this tendency, which is commonly known as generalizing, is a common cognitive shortcut that can lead to misunderstandings and unfair judgements. And I found myself doing this common cognitive shortcut with the men I have been meeting on my dating journey. I was called out on it, and I thought to myself, how many people are generalizing people and experiences in an effort to protect themselves from being hurt? So, let’s talk about.

In this post, I will explore what generalizing means, why people do it, and how to overcome this habit to foster better connections and understanding.

Generalizing refers to the act of applying a belief or characteristic of a specific person or situation to an entire group or category. It’s a cognitive process where the brain simplify complex information by categorizing and drawing conclusions based on limited evidence or experiences.

My Traveling Friends, imagine meeting a very rude person from a particular background and assuming that everyone from that background is also rude. Or what if you witnessed one negative event and begin to believe that all similar situations will have the same outcome. Generalizing often involves making broad, sweeping statements that ignore individual differences and nuances.

So, why do people generalize people and experience ? Well here are several reasons why people tend to generalize:

  1. Cognitive Efficiency: Our brains seek to conserve energy by forming quick judgements based on limited information.
  2. Previous Experiences: Past encounters or cultural influences can shape our beliefs about certain groups or situations.
  3. Confirmation Bias: We my seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs, leading to further generalizations.
  4. Emotional Responses: Strong emotions such as fear or anger can fuel generalizations as a way to simplify complex emotions.

Ultimately, people generalize people and situations in an effort to keep themselves safe from hurt and pain.

Eventhough, many of us generalize people and experiences as a defense mechanism, the fact is there is not real benefits to generalizing people and experiences. In actuality, when you generalize people and experiences you cause more harm to yourself and others. When we generalize people and experiences we really blur lines of truth and untruth, fact and fiction, reality and delusion.

However, there are some benefits to not generalizing people and experiences. When you avoid generalization it can lead to improved relationships. By focusing on individual characteristics rather than stereotypes, you can build more meaningful connections. Avoiding generalization can lead to increased empathy, as you will see people as unique individuals and develop empathy and understanding. It also leads to better decision-making, and it reduced bias.

In order to move past generalizing people and experiences, your belief/mindset must change. A crucial belief shift to stop generalizing is recognizing that each person and experience is unique. Instead of assuming, approach each encounter with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

My Traveling Friends here are fours key steps to overcoming generalization:

  1. Awareness: Start becoming aware of your own generalizations. Notice when you make assumptions about people or situations.
  2. Challenge Your Beliefs: Question the validity of your generalizations. Ask yourself – Are they based on facts or stereotypes?
  3. Seek Diverse Perspectives: Engage with people from different backgrounds and experiences to broaden your understanding.
  4. Practice Empathy: Put yourself in other’s shoes and strive to understand their individual stories and perspectives.

Generalizing people and experiences is a common cognitive shortcut that can hinder empathy, understanding, and meaningful connections. It is used as a defense mechanism for many people. However, by challenging your beliefs, seeking diverse perspectives, and practicing empathy, you can overcome generalizations and foster a more inclusive and compassionate mindset. Are you ready to take the first step towards a confident and open mindset? If you’re ready to break free from the habit of generalizing and develop a more confident and open mindset, I want to invite you to schedule a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program. It is a 1-on-1 coaching program that is designed to help individuals overcome limiting beliefs and embrace a more positive and inclusive worldview.

Go to www.lifeisbutajourney.com to schedule a consultation call today and embark on a journey of personal growth and trasnformation, begin to create a fulfilling life on purpose.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 299 Days

GOD is good……. Okay guys remember when I said that I decided to let God guide me on my weight lost journey instead of doing it the world’s way, and all I can say is that my GOD is good. So, it has been a full week since I started to continue my weight lost journey with God and I see results on the scale. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 299 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!! We made it into 2017, and that is something that we all need to thank the Lord for because soooooooo many people did not make it into 2017. Thank you Lord for ordering our step through 2016 and into 2017, and I pray that you continue to order our steps in 2017. I know that it has been awhile since my last post and I now that you all are wondering what has happen with me on this journey. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: My 5k Race Day

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Okay guys, by now I know that you all are waiting to hear how I did on June 18, 2016 (My 5k Race) and the answer to the question is…………I did okay. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: My 5k Race Day”

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 25 Days

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Hey guys, I know it has been awhile since my last post and video, but I have been super busy trying to get myself situated. New jobs, starting a business, and making bracelets to sell all while being a mom and a wife has taken up a lot of my time. But please believe that I was thinking about my faithful supporter, because you all matter to me too. You guys help keep me motivated to push my self to be the best I can be, so thank you for your continuous support as I travel on my journey.

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So, what is the scoop you may be wondering? How is the training going? Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 25 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days

Guys, I have so much to talk about that I don’t know where to start. So, I guess I should start at the beginning right? Right…. Well, guys I was laid off from my job of 11 years (Westwood College closed their doors). Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days”

My Weight Loss Journey: Day 587 – 1 Year 224 Days

In the Weight Watcher’s Meetings the participates are always asked what are the small steps that we can take everyday that will help us reach our goal? This is a very good question, and my answer is self control.

God’s word tells me that I have self control, and that I am in control of my body and thoughts; with the help of the Holy Spirit. So, I have to chose the make a different choice concerning food, and eating late at night.  Let me explain-I get home from work late and when I get home I am hungry, so I would eat my dinner. Then I would go to bed, and thus I gain weight. Many people might say why would I do that if I know I am going to gain weight. And my answer is because I have to eat right, and that is the thinking that I have to overcome. God says that I have self control, so at a certain time I should be able to stop eating and still know that I will be okay. But I don’t, I make the choice to eat late at night, and I know that it is derailing my weight lost journey.


So, one might think then why are you doing this (trying to lost weight and sabotage your self), and I would have to say because I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me and God’s word also tells me that I have self control. And His word continues to motive me to get back up again once I fall down, no matter how many times I fall down. Don’t get me wrong failing (falling down) more than once and back to back is very discouraging and it can bring your spirits down, but when I read God’s word and attend church to hear His word I am encouraged to get back up and take another step in the right direction. Every successful person will tell you that it is good to fail (it may not feel good) because it teaches you something and it helps to build character. The knowledge that I am gaining from Weight Watcher’s can also be applied to my everyday life journey. The bible say that as a man thinketh so is he, so if I think that I am someone that has self control, then I will be that person that has self control. If I think that I am successful, then I will be successful.

So, yes my one small step that I can take everyday that will help me reach my goal is to practice self control as it concerns eating late at night, Because God says that I have self control, so I have it. Now my question to you all is what small step can you take everyday that will help you reach your goals in life? Please share you thoughts and I will continue to share my weight lost journey with you all, until next….