Breaking the Habit of Generalizing People and Experiences

My Traveling Friends, have you ever caught yourself making sweeping statements about a group of people or assuming that one experience defines an entire category? Well, this tendency, which is commonly known as generalizing, is a common cognitive shortcut that can lead to misunderstandings and unfair judgements. And I found myself doing this common cognitive shortcut with the men I have been meeting on my dating journey. I was called out on it, and I thought to myself, how many people are generalizing people and experiences in an effort to protect themselves from being hurt? So, let’s talk about.

In this post, I will explore what generalizing means, why people do it, and how to overcome this habit to foster better connections and understanding.

Generalizing refers to the act of applying a belief or characteristic of a specific person or situation to an entire group or category. It’s a cognitive process where the brain simplify complex information by categorizing and drawing conclusions based on limited evidence or experiences.

My Traveling Friends, imagine meeting a very rude person from a particular background and assuming that everyone from that background is also rude. Or what if you witnessed one negative event and begin to believe that all similar situations will have the same outcome. Generalizing often involves making broad, sweeping statements that ignore individual differences and nuances.

So, why do people generalize people and experience ? Well here are several reasons why people tend to generalize:

  1. Cognitive Efficiency: Our brains seek to conserve energy by forming quick judgements based on limited information.
  2. Previous Experiences: Past encounters or cultural influences can shape our beliefs about certain groups or situations.
  3. Confirmation Bias: We my seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs, leading to further generalizations.
  4. Emotional Responses: Strong emotions such as fear or anger can fuel generalizations as a way to simplify complex emotions.

Ultimately, people generalize people and situations in an effort to keep themselves safe from hurt and pain.

Eventhough, many of us generalize people and experiences as a defense mechanism, the fact is there is not real benefits to generalizing people and experiences. In actuality, when you generalize people and experiences you cause more harm to yourself and others. When we generalize people and experiences we really blur lines of truth and untruth, fact and fiction, reality and delusion.

However, there are some benefits to not generalizing people and experiences. When you avoid generalization it can lead to improved relationships. By focusing on individual characteristics rather than stereotypes, you can build more meaningful connections. Avoiding generalization can lead to increased empathy, as you will see people as unique individuals and develop empathy and understanding. It also leads to better decision-making, and it reduced bias.

In order to move past generalizing people and experiences, your belief/mindset must change. A crucial belief shift to stop generalizing is recognizing that each person and experience is unique. Instead of assuming, approach each encounter with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

My Traveling Friends here are fours key steps to overcoming generalization:

  1. Awareness: Start becoming aware of your own generalizations. Notice when you make assumptions about people or situations.
  2. Challenge Your Beliefs: Question the validity of your generalizations. Ask yourself – Are they based on facts or stereotypes?
  3. Seek Diverse Perspectives: Engage with people from different backgrounds and experiences to broaden your understanding.
  4. Practice Empathy: Put yourself in other’s shoes and strive to understand their individual stories and perspectives.

Generalizing people and experiences is a common cognitive shortcut that can hinder empathy, understanding, and meaningful connections. It is used as a defense mechanism for many people. However, by challenging your beliefs, seeking diverse perspectives, and practicing empathy, you can overcome generalizations and foster a more inclusive and compassionate mindset. Are you ready to take the first step towards a confident and open mindset? If you’re ready to break free from the habit of generalizing and develop a more confident and open mindset, I want to invite you to schedule a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program. It is a 1-on-1 coaching program that is designed to help individuals overcome limiting beliefs and embrace a more positive and inclusive worldview.

Go to www.lifeisbutajourney.com to schedule a consultation call today and embark on a journey of personal growth and trasnformation, begin to create a fulfilling life on purpose.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 299 Days

GOD is good……. Okay guys remember when I said that I decided to let God guide me on my weight lost journey instead of doing it the world’s way, and all I can say is that my GOD is good. So, it has been a full week since I started to continue my weight lost journey with God and I see results on the scale. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 299 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!! We made it into 2017, and that is something that we all need to thank the Lord for because soooooooo many people did not make it into 2017. Thank you Lord for ordering our step through 2016 and into 2017, and I pray that you continue to order our steps in 2017. I know that it has been awhile since my last post and I now that you all are wondering what has happen with me on this journey. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: My 5k Race Day

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Okay guys, by now I know that you all are waiting to hear how I did on June 18, 2016 (My 5k Race) and the answer to the question is…………I did okay. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: My 5k Race Day”

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 25 Days

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Hey guys, I know it has been awhile since my last post and video, but I have been super busy trying to get myself situated. New jobs, starting a business, and making bracelets to sell all while being a mom and a wife has taken up a lot of my time. But please believe that I was thinking about my faithful supporter, because you all matter to me too. You guys help keep me motivated to push my self to be the best I can be, so thank you for your continuous support as I travel on my journey.

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So, what is the scoop you may be wondering? How is the training going? Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 25 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days

Guys, I have so much to talk about that I don’t know where to start. So, I guess I should start at the beginning right? Right…. Well, guys I was laid off from my job of 11 years (Westwood College closed their doors). Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days”

My Weight Loss Journey: Day 587 – 1 Year 224 Days

In the Weight Watcher’s Meetings the participates are always asked what are the small steps that we can take everyday that will help us reach our goal? This is a very good question, and my answer is self control.

God’s word tells me that I have self control, and that I am in control of my body and thoughts; with the help of the Holy Spirit. So, I have to chose the make a different choice concerning food, and eating late at night.  Let me explain-I get home from work late and when I get home I am hungry, so I would eat my dinner. Then I would go to bed, and thus I gain weight. Many people might say why would I do that if I know I am going to gain weight. And my answer is because I have to eat right, and that is the thinking that I have to overcome. God says that I have self control, so at a certain time I should be able to stop eating and still know that I will be okay. But I don’t, I make the choice to eat late at night, and I know that it is derailing my weight lost journey.


So, one might think then why are you doing this (trying to lost weight and sabotage your self), and I would have to say because I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me and God’s word also tells me that I have self control. And His word continues to motive me to get back up again once I fall down, no matter how many times I fall down. Don’t get me wrong failing (falling down) more than once and back to back is very discouraging and it can bring your spirits down, but when I read God’s word and attend church to hear His word I am encouraged to get back up and take another step in the right direction. Every successful person will tell you that it is good to fail (it may not feel good) because it teaches you something and it helps to build character. The knowledge that I am gaining from Weight Watcher’s can also be applied to my everyday life journey. The bible say that as a man thinketh so is he, so if I think that I am someone that has self control, then I will be that person that has self control. If I think that I am successful, then I will be successful.

So, yes my one small step that I can take everyday that will help me reach my goal is to practice self control as it concerns eating late at night, Because God says that I have self control, so I have it. Now my question to you all is what small step can you take everyday that will help you reach your goals in life? Please share you thoughts and I will continue to share my weight lost journey with you all, until next….