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I Knew Who I Was Until My Life Changed

There are some changes you prepare for, and then there are changes that divide your life into before and after.

Losing my mom was one of those changes for me. When she died, I wasn’t only grieving the loss of my mother. Somewhere underneath the sadness was a question I didn’t know how to answer: Who am I going to be without my mom?

I had known myself as her daughter my entire life. She had been part of my understanding of family, strength, and even myself. Then suddenly, she wasn’t physically here anymore, and life expected me to keep going.

That’s one of the hardest things about loss and change. The world keeps moving even when something inside you has stopped.

I kept moving too.

Eventually, I graduated from chiropractic school with my Doctor of Chiropractic degree. That should have been one of the happiest and proudest moments of my life. I had worked hard for that degree. I had accomplished something significant. But my mom wasn’t there. I remember wishing I could see her sitting in the audience. More than anything, I wanted to hear her say, “I’m proud of you.”

And because she wasn’t there, part of that moment felt pointless.

That’s messy to admit because earning my doctorate wasn’t pointless. I know that. But grief doesn’t always care about what makes sense. Sometimes you can accomplish something you worked years to achieve and still feel the emptiness of the person who isn’t there to see it.

I think that’s something we misunderstand about uncertainty. We usually think uncertainty means not knowing what’s going to happen next. But sometimes uncertainty is much more personal.

Sometimes uncertainty sounds like: “I don’t know who I am anymore.”

Maybe the relationship ended. Maybe the career that once made you feel successful no longer fulfills you. Maybe your business is growing, but you’re exhausted from carrying it. Maybe you’ve accomplished what you thought would make you happy, yet success hasn’t given you the peace you expected.

Or maybe you’re the person everyone depends on—the provider, the leader, the responsible one—and privately you’re wondering who you are when you’re not taking care of everybody else.

Uncertainty has a way of exposing what we’ve been depending on for security, the roles we’ve confused with our identity, how much control we thought we had, and sometimes even what we really believe about God.

After my mom died, uncertainty exposed something in me.

I believed I had to step into her shoes.

I thought I had to take on the responsibilities she left behind. I believed I had to be strong because she had been strong.

But underneath all of that was something even deeper.

I thought I had to become her.

I was grieving who I lost while believing I had to become who I lost.

At the time, I thought I was doing what needed to be done. I thought being strong meant carrying the responsibility, keeping things moving, and becoming the person I believed everyone needed me to be.

Maybe you know something about that.

Sometimes life changes, and before we’ve even had time to process what happened, we’re already creating rules about who we have to become because of it.

I have to be strong.

I have to figure this out.

I can’t let everybody down.

I have to keep succeeding.

I should trust God more than this.

After a while, those thoughts don’t simply describe what we’re going through. They start shaping who we believe we have to be.

Then something changes, the familiar answers disappear, and we’re left asking:

“Who am I now?”

I wish I could tell you that I figured that out shortly after my mom died.

I didn’t.

It took years.

Years before I understood that honoring my mother didn’t require me to become my mother.

My mother helped me become who I am, but God never asked me to become her.

God used my mom to help get me here, but He still had a plan for me. My mother loved me, influenced me, and helped shape the woman I became.

But God created me to become Jeanine.

And when my mother died, God didn’t leave with her.

That realization didn’t erase my grief. It didn’t make me stop wishing she had been sitting in that audience when I received my degree. It didn’t suddenly answer every question I had.

But it began changing the way I understood uncertainty.

I started realizing that not knowing what comes next doesn’t mean God has left. Losing someone or something that helped define your life doesn’t mean you’ve lost who you are. And having your life change doesn’t mean God’s plan for you disappeared with the life you used to know.

Hebrews 13:5 reminds us, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

I’ve had to learn what those words mean outside of the comfortable seasons.

Sometimes God’s presence doesn’t mean He prevents the loss.

Sometimes it means you discover that He is still there after the loss.

That changed my faith and how I understand identity.

The people we love, our relationships, careers, businesses, responsibilities, and accomplishments matter. But none of those things were designed to carry the full weight of telling us who we are.

Because life changes.

And sometimes the life we were certain we would have becomes a life we have to grieve.

That’s when the deeper work begins.

Instead of only asking, “What’s going to happen next?” I’ve learned that sometimes we need to ask:

“Who am I believing I have to become because my life changed?”

Maybe you’ve decided you have to become harder because someone hurt you. Maybe you believe you have to do everything yourself because someone left. Maybe you can’t slow down because people depend on you. Maybe you’ve decided starting over means you failed.

Those beliefs can quietly follow us into the next chapter of our lives.

Then there’s another question:

“Who is God asking me to become now?”

Not who does everybody else need you to be. Not who were you before everything changed. Not who do you think you should be by now.

Who are you becoming?

I’m still learning the answer to that question.

There are still times when uncertainty makes me uncomfortable. There are still moments when I’d rather know exactly what God is doing than trust Him without an explanation.

And I still wish my mom had been sitting in that audience.

I wish I could have seen her face.

I wish I could have heard her say, “I’m proud of you.”

Becoming who God created me to be doesn’t require me to pretend I don’t still want those things. Growth hasn’t erased my grief. I don’t think it’s supposed to.

But grief no longer tells me I have to become my mother in order to carry forward what she gave me.

My mother helped me become who I am, but God never asked me to become her.

God used her to help get me here. And when her part of my journey ended in a way I never wanted it to, God didn’t stop writing mine.

He was still there.

And He was still helping me become Jeanine.

My Traveling Friend, maybe your uncertainty isn’t only about what’s going to happen next. Maybe underneath everything that’s changing is a quieter question:

“Who am I going to be now?”

You don’t have to rush to answer it.

Maybe this season is inviting you to become aware of what you’ve been believing about yourself, acknowledge what you’ve lost, process what the change has brought up, accept what you cannot change, and begin taking intentional action toward the person God created you to be.

That’s the kind of deeper work we do inside the Confidence Mindset Program. I help individuals feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to create the life they truly desire.

If uncertainty has left you questioning who you are, where you’re going, or who you’re becoming, schedule a consultation call at www.lifeisbutajourney.com to learn more about the Confidence Mindset Program.

You may not know exactly who you’ll be on the other side of this season.

I didn’t either.

But I’ve learned that when life changes, God doesn’t stop being God, and you don’t have to become someone else to survive what changed.

Sometimes uncertainty is where the familiar answers disappear, and you begin discovering who you are underneath them.

And sometimes it’s where you realize God was never asking you to replace what you lost.

He was still calling you to become who He created you to be.

Until next time, remember to Live Confidently on Purpose.

Letting Go of Control: The Hardest Thing I Didn’t Know I Needed

I used to think I was trusting God.

I prayed every day. I read my Bible. I believed He had a plan for my life.

But if I’m honest…

I also had a plan.

Actually, I had several.

I remember sitting at my kitchen table one evening with my planner open, sticky notes scattered everywhere, and a notebook filled with lists. I had written down three different ways to solve the same problem. I kept thinking, “If I can just figure this out, then I’ll finally be able to relax.”

But I never relaxed.

Every answer led to another question. Every plan made me think of another thing that could go wrong. I would finally crawl into bed at night, exhausted, and my mind would still be racing. I’d replay conversations that hadn’t even happened yet. I’d imagine every possible outcome. Then I’d wake up the next morning and do it all over again.

I wasn’t tired because I had too much to do.

I was tired because I was trying to carry things God never asked me to carry.

Looking back, I realized something that was hard to admit.

I wasn’t trying to control my life because I was strong.

I was trying to control it because I was scared.

Somewhere along the way, I convinced myself that if I could predict everything, prepare for everything, and plan for everything… maybe nothing could hurt me again.

Maybe you’ve felt that way too.

Maybe you’ve smiled through the meeting at work while your mind was somewhere else.

Maybe you’ve answered everyone’s phone calls, helped everyone solve their problems, and then sat quietly wondering why no one knew you were struggling.

Maybe you’ve prayed for peace but spent the rest of the day trying to force everything to work out the way you wanted.



I’ve been there.

The hardest part about surrender isn’t giving something to God.

The hardest part is leaving it with Him.

I wish I could tell you there was one prayer that changed everything.

There wasn’t.



I would pray in the morning and take my worries back before lunch. I’d tell God I trusted Him, and then I’d spend the rest of the day trying to fix the very thing I had just placed in His hands. I wasn’t lacking faith—I was learning what surrender actually looked like.

That’s why Proverbs 3:5–6 became so personal to me:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Notice what God doesn’t say.

He doesn’t say, “Figure it out first.”

He doesn’t say, “Wait until you’re confident.”

He doesn’t say, “Come back when you have all the answers.”

He simply says… Trust Me.

That changed everything.

I realized surrender wasn’t one big moment.

It was hundreds of little moments.

It looked like choosing not to replay the same conversation for the tenth time.

It looked like praying instead of panicking.

It looked like admitting I didn’t know what was coming next—and believing God did.

Some days I did that well.

Some days I didn’t.

Because life is messy.

Faith can be messy.

Growth is definitely messy.



But here’s what I’ve learned: God has never asked us to come to Him with everything perfectly organized. He simply asks us to loosen our grip enough for Him to lead.

So today, don’t try to surrender your whole life.

Just surrender one thing.

One fear.

One relationship.

One decision.

One unanswered prayer.

Leave it with God today.

Then tomorrow…

Do it again.

That’s how trust grows.

That’s how peace begins.

And that’s how surrender slowly changes your life from the inside out.

Many people spend years looking for peace in busy schedules, expensive vacations, endless planning, or another distraction that promises a break from the pressure. Those things may help you escape for a little while, but they can’t renew the way you think or teach you how to trust God more deeply. Lasting peace begins with inner transformation.

That’s why I created the Confidence Mindset Program.

I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want.

You don’t have to keep carrying the weight of trying to control everything on your own. You don’t have to keep living with a mind that never rests and a heart that never feels settled.

Schedule your consultation call today at lifeisbutajourney.com and join me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. Together, we’ll help you renew your mind, strengthen your faith, release what you were never meant to carry, and begin living with the confidence and peace that come from fully surrendering to God.

Until Next Time Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

Why You Don’t Trust Yourself—and How God Helps You Rebuild That Trust

One of the deepest struggles many people carry into 2026 is a quiet but powerful one: Not Trusting Themselves. On the outside, life may look fine, but on the inside, there’s constant second-guessing, hesitation, and doubt. You replay decisions in your head, ask others for reassurance, and struggle to move forward without fear. This lack of self-trust doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means something inside you needs healing and clarity.

When you don’t trust yourself, it often shows up during moments that require decisions, boundaries, or change. You may ignore your instincts, talk yourself out of opportunities, or stay stuck in situations that don’t feel right. I’ve lived this myself—praying for direction, but still feeling unsure, confused, and afraid to make the “wrong” move. Over time, this pattern becomes exhausting. You start to feel disconnected from yourself and unsure of who you really are.

This struggle continues because many people were taught to doubt themselves early in life. Past mistakes, failed relationships, criticism, or seasons where your choices didn’t work out can slowly break trust within. Instead of learning from the past, people begin to fear it. Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 3:5–6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Trusting yourself doesn’t mean trusting apart from God; it means trusting the person God is shaping you to be as you walk closely with Him.

Many people try to fix this lack of self-trust by investing in expensive services—long retreats, therapy sessions, or programs that focus only on talking about the past. While those experiences can be helpful, they often don’t lead to real change, internal peace, or confident action. That’s because self-trust isn’t rebuilt by avoiding life; it’s rebuilt by learning how to think differently, make aligned decisions, and partner with God in everyday moments.

This is where the Confidence Mindset Program becomes a turning point. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to create the life they truly desire. This program is designed to help you rebuild trust within yourself, find peace in your decisions, and move forward confidently—even when life feels uncertain.


Join the Confidence Mindset Program by scheduling your consultation call at www.lifeisbutajourney.com. This is your step toward real change, restored self-trust, and a life lived confidently on purpose with God.

Until Next Time Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

You Are Chosen by God—Created With Purpose, Called With Intention

Being chosen by God is one of the most powerful truths you can ever accept about yourself. God didn’t create you randomly or accidentally; He created you intentionally and assigned purpose to your life before you ever took your first breath. You were chosen for specific work, specific impact, and a specific journey. But even though this truth is written all throughout Scripture, many people struggle to believe they were chosen by God because their life story doesn’t look “perfect,” or because they feel ordinary, flawed, or not special enough.

A big reason people doubt that they were chosen by God is because life experiences convince them otherwise. Some grew up hearing hurtful words. Others struggled through rejection, shame, or failure. Some compare themselves to others and think their gifts don’t measure up. And many believe the limiting thought: “I don’t matter that much to God.” This mindset creates distance between who they think they are and who God says they actually are.

When someone doesn’t believe they are chosen by God, certain behaviors start showing up without them even realizing it. First, they shrink back and play small, saying “no” to opportunities God opened because they feel unqualified. Second, they overwork or overgive, hoping to earn value God already gave them. Third, they seek constant approval, trying to be who others want instead of who God created. These behaviors drain confidence, joy, and purpose, and they block people from stepping into the very calling God designed for them.

You can begin shifting this today. One powerful step is to speak God’s truth over yourself daily. Replace negative thoughts with God’s promises. Ephesians 1:4 tells us, “For He chose us in Him before the creation of the world…” Yes — before the world began, God already knew you. He already called you. He already chose you. And just as important, God doesn’t expect you to walk this journey alone. He places the right people around you at the right time to support you, guide you, and help you grow into the person He designed you to be.

Applying today’s lesson is a strong first step toward believing you are truly chosen by God. But real transformation happens when you decide to invest in the change you want to see. Every month, people spend the same amount on things that bring quick comfort but no lasting growth—gym memberships they barely use, takeout meals that only help in the moment, and streaming subscriptions that keep them distracted but not fulfilled. None of these things will give you the confidence, peace, or purpose you’ve been praying for.

Or… you can invest in a program that transforms you from the inside out.
Schedule your consultation call at www.lifeisbutajourney.com to work with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program, where real and lasting growth begins. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want. When you invest in your mindset, identity, and spiritual alignment, you don’t just change temporarily—you become the confident, chosen, and purpose-driven person God designed you to be. And this time, your transformation will last.

Start Living on Purpose: The Power of Being Intentional With God

Living a life of purpose doesn’t happen by accident. It takes being intentional. When you are intentional, you’re deciding to work with God, not just waiting for life to change. It means making decisions on purpose that reflect who you are, what you believe, and who you are becoming. God shows us this from the very beginning of creation. In Genesis 1, He spoke things into being, day by day, with care and purpose. He didn’t rush or guess. He created everything with clear intention. And as His children, we are invited to do the same with our lives.

One belief that keeps people stuck is the thought, “I don’t know where to start, so I won’t start at all.” I’ve felt that before, and I know how heavy it feels. That belief leads many to live on autopilot, going through the motions, instead of deciding to co-create life with God. But being intentional doesn’t mean you need a perfect plan. It just means you are deciding to show up on purpose, with faith that each step matters. Even one small step of intention can lead to great transformation when you include God in it.

If you’re wondering how to start being intentional, try this: Set one clear intention each morning before the day begins. For example, you might say, “Today, I choose to speak life,” or “Today, I will focus on peace, no matter what happens.” This daily decision trains your mind and heart to live with purpose. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” When you are intentional about your thoughts, your time, and your actions, you open the door for God to lead you in powerful ways.

God didn’t design us to walk this life alone. He places people in our path to support, encourage, and walk with us, especially when we’re stepping into something new. Being intentional also means letting the right people pour into you and help you grow. You don’t have to do it all on your own. And you’re not meant to. If you feel like life is just happening to you, now is the time to take back your power by being intentional and deciding to walk with purpose.

When life feels out of control and nothing seems to align with who you are or where you want to go, it’s time to take your power back. The Confidence Mindset Program is designed to help you stop surviving and start intentionally building the life God created you to live. Through faith-based coaching, you’ll break free from limiting beliefs, gain clarity, and finally feel grounded in who you are. This is your moment to stop drifting and start co-creating your future with purpose. Schedule your consultation call today—because you’re ready to lead your life, not just react to it.

Click the link – http://www.lifeisbutajourney.com to schedule your consultation call today, because you’re not meant to do this life on autopilot, and living on purpose starts with one bold decision. Let’s start building the life you truly deserve, with God leading the way.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

The Secret Superpower: How Asking for Help Can Change Your Life…

Have you ever thought about asking for help but hesitated? Sometimes, asking for help can be a powerful way to make things better. People need to ask for help because it’s not always easy to solve problems on your own. When you ask for help, you can experience many benefits. First, you get different ideas and solutions that you might not think of by yourself. Second, asking for help can save you time and energy, you feel less stressed and more supported because you’re not facing challenges alone. Third, asking for help can lead to personal growth. When you seek assistance, you often receive new perspectives and feedback that can challenge your thinking and help you learn and develop new skills. This can boost your confidence and contribute to your overall personal and professional growth.

However, some people don’t ask for help because of limiting beliefs. One belief that people believe that stops them from asking for help is that asking for help makes them look weak or incapable. Another belief that people believe about asking for help that stops them from getting the support they need is that they might be bothering others or they seem like a burden to others. These thoughts can stop you from getting the support that you need.

If you don’t ask for help, it can hurt you in many ways. You might just find yourself stuck with problems longer or feel more stressed out. This can make it harder to enjoy life and reach your goals.

To start asking for help, try taking one small step. You could ask a friend or family member for advice on something you’re struggling with. This can help you get more comfortable with asking for help in other areas of your life.

Investing in yourself with personal development tools and materials, like the Confidence Mindset Program, can teach you how to move from choosing the struggle in silence to deciding to ask for help and build your confidence. It’s important to learn these skills so you can handle challenges better and live a more abundant and happier life.

Don’t wait another day! Take your life to the next level today. Schedule your consultation call now and let’s talk about how the Confidence Mindset Program can help you master the art of asking for help to make your life easier and more fulfilling.

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Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But a Journey

Escape the Desperation Trap: Find Your Confidence Today…

My Traveling Friends, there was a man named Jack who felt really desperate in his life. He had lost just lost his job, his family was struggling, and he didn’t have enough money topay the bills. Every day felt like a race against time, and he didn’t know how to make things better. He started to feel like there was no hope and no way out of his situations.

Guys, this story made be fiction, and yet for millions of individuals this is the story of their life. There are individuals out there that have just lost their jobs, struggling to make ends meet, going through a divorce, dating and so badly wanting to be married, etc… And they are allowing the feelings of desperation dictate their behaviors, which is creating and recreating a life that continues to feel hopeless.

Is this your story too? Have you ever felt like Jack? What did you do to try to fix it? Or maybe you didn’t have a clue where to start.

If you are reading this blog that means it found you and this information will be the start of you seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Let’s talk…

Being desperate means feeling like you need something so babdly that you’ll do almost anything to get it. It’s when you feel like you have no options left and you’re willing to take any chance to fix your problem. Being desperate in life maeans feeling trapped and hopless in different parts of your life. It can make you do things that aren’t good for you because you’re trying to solve your problems quickly. All in an effort to get out of the pain of desperation.

Let’s look at some examples:

  1. Career: Imagine you’re working really hard at your job, but you’re not getting the promotion you desire. You start feeling desperate. You just might quit your jobs without having another job lined up or you may start taking on too much work trying to impress your boss.
  2. Friendship Issues: If you’re feeling lonely, you might do anything to make friends. This could mean
  3. Money Problems: Imagine you really need money to pay for something important. You might take a job you don’t like or even think about borrowing money frompeople you shouldn’t, just to solve the problem fast.

One big belief that makes people act desperately is thinking, “I’m not good enough.” When you believe this, you feel like you have to prove yourself all the time, which can lead to making bad choice just to show that you’re worthy and to get approval from others.

Feeling desperate can make life really hard and it doesn’t have to be a part of your life forever. You can learn how to handle tough situations better and make smarter decisions by working with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. The Confidence Mindset Program is a 1-on-1 coaching program that will cause you to challenge your belief systems that are holding you back and empower you with prinicples that will teach you how to control your emotions, believe in yourself, and find better solutions when life gets hard.

Ready to stop feeling desperate and startfeeling confident?

Don’t let desperation control your life. Schedule a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program – click the link http://www.lifeisbutajourney.com and start learning how to make better decisions and feel good about yourself. You deserve to feel confident and happy. Schedule your consultation today and start your journey to a better life…

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey

Breaking Free from Transactional Relationships: Embrace Genuine Connections

Have you ever felt that your relationships are more like transactions than true connections?

In the realm of human connections, transactional relationships are a common but often unspoken reality. At their core, these type of relationships are built soley on an exchange of goods , services, or benefits. It’s a “Give and Take” dynamic where each party involved in the relationship is primarily motivated by what they can gain from the other.

While this type of relationship may sound practical, especially in today’s fast pace society, it can often lead to a lack of genuine connection and emotional depth. And as human being we were created to love and be loved, not to be used and use others.

John 13:34 – A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

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Forgiveness of Self: The Path to Healing and Growth

My Traveling Friends, forgiveness of self is one of the most powerful yet challenging journeys you will embark upon. It’s an act of courage, compassion, and deep inner work that will transform your lives. At least that is what I experience when I took the challenging journey of forgiving myself of the past hurt that I caused to myself. And it is for this reason that I want to explore why self-forgiveness is essential, what might hold us back, and how we can begin this transformative process.

I am curious, have you ever held onto guilt or regret for something you did in the past? How did it affect your daily life and your self-esteem? I ask these questions because I myself held onto guilt for something that Idiin the past and because of the guilt it was hard for memto hold my head up high, it was hard for me to see myself the way God sees me. And out of that guilt I did not make wise decision for my life. Forgiveness was to key to my freedom, and forgiveness is the key to your freedom too.

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