Category: change

Letting Go of Control: The Hardest Thing I Didn’t Know I Needed

I used to think I was trusting God.

I prayed every day. I read my Bible. I believed He had a plan for my life.

But if I’m honest…

I also had a plan.

Actually, I had several.

I remember sitting at my kitchen table one evening with my planner open, sticky notes scattered everywhere, and a notebook filled with lists. I had written down three different ways to solve the same problem. I kept thinking, “If I can just figure this out, then I’ll finally be able to relax.”

But I never relaxed.

Every answer led to another question. Every plan made me think of another thing that could go wrong. I would finally crawl into bed at night, exhausted, and my mind would still be racing. I’d replay conversations that hadn’t even happened yet. I’d imagine every possible outcome. Then I’d wake up the next morning and do it all over again.

I wasn’t tired because I had too much to do.

I was tired because I was trying to carry things God never asked me to carry.

Looking back, I realized something that was hard to admit.

I wasn’t trying to control my life because I was strong.

I was trying to control it because I was scared.

Somewhere along the way, I convinced myself that if I could predict everything, prepare for everything, and plan for everything… maybe nothing could hurt me again.

Maybe you’ve felt that way too.

Maybe you’ve smiled through the meeting at work while your mind was somewhere else.

Maybe you’ve answered everyone’s phone calls, helped everyone solve their problems, and then sat quietly wondering why no one knew you were struggling.

Maybe you’ve prayed for peace but spent the rest of the day trying to force everything to work out the way you wanted.



I’ve been there.

The hardest part about surrender isn’t giving something to God.

The hardest part is leaving it with Him.

I wish I could tell you there was one prayer that changed everything.

There wasn’t.



I would pray in the morning and take my worries back before lunch. I’d tell God I trusted Him, and then I’d spend the rest of the day trying to fix the very thing I had just placed in His hands. I wasn’t lacking faith—I was learning what surrender actually looked like.

That’s why Proverbs 3:5–6 became so personal to me:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Notice what God doesn’t say.

He doesn’t say, “Figure it out first.”

He doesn’t say, “Wait until you’re confident.”

He doesn’t say, “Come back when you have all the answers.”

He simply says… Trust Me.

That changed everything.

I realized surrender wasn’t one big moment.

It was hundreds of little moments.

It looked like choosing not to replay the same conversation for the tenth time.

It looked like praying instead of panicking.

It looked like admitting I didn’t know what was coming next—and believing God did.

Some days I did that well.

Some days I didn’t.

Because life is messy.

Faith can be messy.

Growth is definitely messy.



But here’s what I’ve learned: God has never asked us to come to Him with everything perfectly organized. He simply asks us to loosen our grip enough for Him to lead.

So today, don’t try to surrender your whole life.

Just surrender one thing.

One fear.

One relationship.

One decision.

One unanswered prayer.

Leave it with God today.

Then tomorrow…

Do it again.

That’s how trust grows.

That’s how peace begins.

And that’s how surrender slowly changes your life from the inside out.

Many people spend years looking for peace in busy schedules, expensive vacations, endless planning, or another distraction that promises a break from the pressure. Those things may help you escape for a little while, but they can’t renew the way you think or teach you how to trust God more deeply. Lasting peace begins with inner transformation.

That’s why I created the Confidence Mindset Program.

I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want.

You don’t have to keep carrying the weight of trying to control everything on your own. You don’t have to keep living with a mind that never rests and a heart that never feels settled.

Schedule your consultation call today at lifeisbutajourney.com and join me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. Together, we’ll help you renew your mind, strengthen your faith, release what you were never meant to carry, and begin living with the confidence and peace that come from fully surrendering to God.

Until Next Time Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

Why You Don’t Trust Yourself—and How God Helps You Rebuild That Trust

One of the deepest struggles many people carry into 2026 is a quiet but powerful one: Not Trusting Themselves. On the outside, life may look fine, but on the inside, there’s constant second-guessing, hesitation, and doubt. You replay decisions in your head, ask others for reassurance, and struggle to move forward without fear. This lack of self-trust doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means something inside you needs healing and clarity.

When you don’t trust yourself, it often shows up during moments that require decisions, boundaries, or change. You may ignore your instincts, talk yourself out of opportunities, or stay stuck in situations that don’t feel right. I’ve lived this myself—praying for direction, but still feeling unsure, confused, and afraid to make the “wrong” move. Over time, this pattern becomes exhausting. You start to feel disconnected from yourself and unsure of who you really are.

This struggle continues because many people were taught to doubt themselves early in life. Past mistakes, failed relationships, criticism, or seasons where your choices didn’t work out can slowly break trust within. Instead of learning from the past, people begin to fear it. Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 3:5–6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Trusting yourself doesn’t mean trusting apart from God; it means trusting the person God is shaping you to be as you walk closely with Him.

Many people try to fix this lack of self-trust by investing in expensive services—long retreats, therapy sessions, or programs that focus only on talking about the past. While those experiences can be helpful, they often don’t lead to real change, internal peace, or confident action. That’s because self-trust isn’t rebuilt by avoiding life; it’s rebuilt by learning how to think differently, make aligned decisions, and partner with God in everyday moments.

This is where the Confidence Mindset Program becomes a turning point. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to create the life they truly desire. This program is designed to help you rebuild trust within yourself, find peace in your decisions, and move forward confidently—even when life feels uncertain.


Join the Confidence Mindset Program by scheduling your consultation call at www.lifeisbutajourney.com. This is your step toward real change, restored self-trust, and a life lived confidently on purpose with God.

Until Next Time Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

Mental and Emotional Overload: Why So Many Are Carrying Too Much Into 2026

As we move toward 2026, one of the biggest struggles people are quietly carrying is mental and emotional overload. It’s the feeling of having too many thoughts running at once while your emotions feel heavy and unsettled. You may look like you’re holding it together on the outside, but on the inside, your mind feels full, your heart feels tired, and peace feels out of reach. This kind of overload doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you’ve been strong for a long time without the right support.

Mental and emotional overload often shows up during seasons of uncertainty. It appears when life doesn’t go as planned, when answers feel unclear, and when control starts slipping away. You may notice it when you’re constantly overthinking, feeling emotionally drained, snapping more easily, or feeling disconnected from yourself and from God. I’ve been there myself, trying to manage everything, praying but still feeling overwhelmed, and wondering why peace felt so hard to hold onto. The truth is, overload continues when we keep trying to carry what God never intended us to carry alone.

This struggle happens because many of us were taught to push through, figure it out, and stay busy instead of slowing down and renewing our minds. We try to control outcomes instead of trusting God with the process. Scripture speaks directly to this in Matthew 11:28, where Jesus says, “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” God doesn’t shame us for feeling overwhelmed; He invites us to rest, reset, and learn a new way of thinking and living with Him.

Many people have already tried to “fix” this overload by investing in expensive options: long retreats, vacations, or services that focus only on talking through stress. While those experiences may offer temporary relief, the overwhelm often returns because the mind hasn’t been renewed, and confidence hasn’t been rebuilt. Real change doesn’t come from escaping life for a moment. It comes from learning how to think differently, trust God more deeply, and live with intention from the inside out.

This is where the Confidence Mindset Program becomes the turning point. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want. This program is not about quick fixes. It’s about lasting transformation, internal peace, and learning how to live confidently even when life feels uncertain. If you’re tired of carrying mental and emotional overload into another year, it’s time to choose a different path.

Join the Confidence Mindset Program by scheduling your consultation call at www.lifeisbutajourney.com. This is your step toward real change, renewed peace, and a life created on purpose with God—no longer controlled by overwhelm, but guided by clarity, confidence, and faith.

Until Next Time, Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

Sacrifice: Why Letting Go Is Often the First Step to Becoming Who You’re Meant to Be

Sacrifice is not about losing something; it’s about making room for something better. To sacrifice means to give up what feels familiar, comfortable, or safe so you can grow into what God is calling you to become. Sometimes the sacrifice is a habit, a mindset, a relationship, or even an old version of yourself. God often asks for sacrifice when staying the same is no longer helping you move forward. Sacrifice is the bridge between where you are and where God wants to take you.

A sacrifice usually comes when life feels uncomfortable or confusing. You may feel stuck, restless, or unsure of who you really are. That’s often when God steps in and asks you to release something so He can do something new. One feeling many people experience when they are called to sacrifice is fear—fear of change, fear of the unknown, or fear of losing control. But fear doesn’t mean stop. It often means growth is close. God asks for sacrifice because He sees the full picture and knows what you need to let go of so you can thrive.

The Bible reminds us in Romans 12:1, “Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, this is your true and proper worship.” Sacrifice is an act of trust. It’s saying, “God, I believe Your plan is better than my comfort.” When you make the sacrifice God is asking you to make, clarity starts to replace confusion. Confidence begins to grow. You start to feel more connected to who you truly are and the life you’re meant to live.

Avoiding sacrifice often keeps people feeling lost, unsure, and disconnected from themselves. Life starts to feel like it’s just happening to them instead of being created with intention. But when sacrifice is embraced, transformation begins on the inside first. Your thinking changes. Your confidence grows. You stop reacting to life and start intentionally co-creating it with God. Sacrifice opens the door to real change because it requires both faith and action.

This is where working with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program becomes the next step forward. Many people spend more money on vacations, entertainment, shopping, or quick escapes that feel good for a moment but leave their lives unchanged. Real transformation doesn’t happen on the outside first; it starts within. Working with me gives you the support, structure, and guidance you need to move toward lasting change. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want. Schedule your consultation call today and take the step that leads to real growth, real confidence, and a life created on purpose.

Until Next Time Remember to Live Confidently on Purpose…

Rediscovering Your True Identity in God

Identity is something everyone struggles with at some point in life. The truth is, our identity comes from God, the one who created us. He gave us our worth and purpose before we ever tried to define ourselves by titles, roles, or what others thought about us. When we lose sight of who we are in Him, we start to search for identity in people, achievements, or even the opinions of others, leaving us feeling empty and disconnected from who God designed us to be.

Many individuals lose their sense of self when life takes unexpected turns — through failed relationships, career struggles, or painful experiences. I know because I’ve been there. For a long time, I lost my identity in the labels others placed on me and the mistakes I made. I believed the limiting belief that “I am not enough unless I prove myself.” That belief kept me trapped in cycles of doubt and insecurity, always striving but never feeling whole. It wasn’t until I turned back to God and allowed Him to remind me of who I truly was that I began to heal and walk confidently in my identity.

The good news is you don’t have to stay stuck in that place. A first step you can take right now to begin discovering your identity is to spend intentional time with God daily. Write down what He says about you in His Word and speak it over yourself. 1 Peter 2:9 reminds us, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” This scripture is proof that your identity is secure in Him, not in what the world says. God also places people in our lives to walk alongside us, encourage us, and help us see the gifts He placed within us.

When we lean on God and begin to see ourselves the way He sees us, we step into freedom. We start to live with intention, clarity, and confidence. It’s not about chasing the approval of others, but about standing firm in the identity He has given us. And when you walk in that truth, you don’t just change your own life; you inspire others to do the same.

Applying today’s lesson is a powerful first step toward rediscovering your God-given identity. The next step is to schedule your consultation call to work with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. In this program, I’ll help you build confidence, break free from limiting beliefs, and start living on purpose with God by your side. You don’t have to keep feeling lost or unsure because together we’ll create the clarity, peace, and direction you’ve been searching for. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want.

Until Next Time, Remember To Live Confidently On Purpose…

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Original by Design…Embrace The Gifts God Gave You!

God gave you something special, your “OWN” unique gifts and talents. These aren’t random or average. They were carefully chosen by God to be used to bless others, make a difference, and help you live out your purpose. Whether your gift is encouraging others, solving problems, organizing chaos, or creating beauty, your talents matter. You don’t have to be on a big stage to have a big impact. When you use what God gave you, right where you are, you become a light in someone’s life. That’s powerful.

One trap that keeps people stuck is thinking their gifts aren’t good enough. It’s a common limiting belief that says, “If my talent doesn’t look like theirs, it must not matter.” But wanting someone else’s gift is like telling God He made a mistake when He made you. I’ve been there myself, struggling with comparison, thinking I had to sound more like other coaches or speak a certain way to be accepted. But I learned that my strength was in being me. Your value isn’t in being a copy, it’s in being you. God didn’t ask you to be a duplicate. He created you to be an original.

If you’ve been doubting your gifts and talents, take this first step today: Write down three things that come easily to you, even if they seem small. Ask God to show you how to use them to serve others. 1 Corinthians 12:4 reminds us, “There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them.” This means your gift may look different, but it comes from the same loving God who created all of us for a purpose. You don’t have to do it all. You just have to do your part.

And the good news? God doesn’t just hand out talents and leave you on your own—He places the right people in your path to guide, support, and grow with you. Whether it’s a mentor, a coach, a friend, or a prayer partner, God sends people to help water the seed He planted in you. You were never meant to walk this journey alone. And when you’re open to that support, your gifts and talents begin to bloom in ways you never imagined.

If you’re tired of feeling like life is just happening to you and you’re ready to feel sure of yourself and intentionally co-create your life with God, it’s time to take action. Schedule a consultation call today to join my Confidence Mindset Program. I help people feel sure of themselves and live on purpose by teaching them how to change the way they think and partner with God to build the life they truly want. You don’t have to wait for permission to start living boldly. You already have the gifts. Let’s activate them…together.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

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“Let Go of Familiar—Your Growth Begins Where Comfort Ends”

Nobody really likes feeling uncomfortable. It’s awkward, scary, and let’s be honest—downright annoying. But guess what? Growth doesn’t happen where it’s cozy. Getting uncomfortable to grow means stepping out of what’s familiar so you can step into who God created you to be. I remember a time in my life when I had to make a huge decision that didn’t make sense to the people around me. I left behind a situation that felt safe but was keeping me small. It was uncomfortable, even painful at times, but it was the very thing that pushed me closer to my purpose and brought out strength I didn’t even know I had. God doesn’t call us to comfort zones; He calls us to grow. In fact, James 1:2-4 reminds us, “Consider it pure joy… whenever you face trials… because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”

Still, most people stay stuck because of one sneaky thought: “What if I fail?” I’ve believed that lie before, too. It kept me in places that looked okay on the outside but were draining me on the inside. That kind of thinking holds you back from creating your life on purpose. You stop applying for new jobs. You avoid tough conversations. You keep hiding your dreams in the back of your mind. But avoiding discomfort means avoiding the growth that leads to peace, freedom, and real joy. You were made for more, not just for comfort.

Here’s one way you can start today: do one small thing that stretches you. Maybe that means saying “no” when you usually say “yes,” or trying something new that you’ve been scared to try. Write down what you feel, and ask God to show you what He’s growing in you through it. Getting uncomfortable to grow isn’t about doing big, wild things—it’s about showing up differently, one brave step at a time.

Getting uncomfortable is where your growth begins, and coaching helps you stay on that path when your mind wants to run back to what’s familiar. That’s exactly what the Confidence Mindset Program is here for—to walk with you as you push past fear, break through limiting beliefs, and start showing up as the person God created you to be. When you commit to this journey, you’re not just learning how to handle life—you’re learning how to thrive in it. Peace in every situation, confidence in every room, purpose in every step. Schedule your consultation call today and begin living the life you were made for—full of joy, clarity, and unstoppable confidence.

Thinking Higher: Shifting Your Mind to What Matters

Have you ever caught yourself stuck in a loop of thinking about everything you don’t have? It’s easy to focus on what’s missing—more money, better relationships, a different life. But when your mind stays in lack, your life follows. God calls us to think higher, to set our minds on His truth instead of our doubts. Philippians 4:8 reminds us, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” When you shift your focus to what God says instead of what you think you’re missing, you open the door to peace, confidence, and a life lived on purpose.

One of the biggest limiting beliefs that holds people back is the idea that “I’ll never have enough.” I know this struggle well. For years, I believed if I just had a little more—more success, more approval, more of whatever—I’d finally feel secure. But that kind of thinking kept me chasing instead of thriving. Higher thinking isn’t about ignoring reality; it’s about deciding to focus on what God is doing instead of what seems to be missing. When you believe that God provides, you stop striving and start walking in peace.

If you’re ready to break free from lack thinking and start thriving, it’s time to shift your mindset. A great way to do this is by writing down three things you’re grateful for each day—yes, even the small stuff. Gratitude rewires your brain to see what’s possible instead of what’s missing. And if you need support in making this shift, I’m here to help! Schedule a consultation call today to learn more about my Confidence Mindset Program, where you’ll gain the tools to think higher, thrive in life, and feel peace in every situation. It’s time to rise! 💫✨

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

Stop Trying to Be a Clone—God Didn’t Use a Copy-Paste Button!

Being the right way to be means living as the person God created you to be, not as someone you think you should be. When you try to be someone else, you miss out on the amazing qualities that make you unique. Embracing your true self and practicing acceptance of self lets your inner light shine.

Too often, I believed I had to fit into a specific mold so others would like me. I struggled with this limiting belief, thinking that changing who I was would help me be accepted. This idea stopped me from really living life because it forced me to hide my true self instead of celebrating it. It’s a common thought that if you adjust your personality or hide parts of yourself, you’ll be accepted. But trying to fit into someone else’s idea of perfection only stops you from growing and being happy. Learning to love yourself exactly as you are makes life more fun and full of possibilities.

One thing you can start doing today is to jot down three things you love about yourself every morning. This practice helps you see the beauty in who you are and builds real confidence from within. If you’re ready to feel good in the skin you’re in and want more guidance, schedule a consultation call to work with me in the Confidence Mindset Program. Let’s unlock your true potential together!

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…

From Delulu to Doable: How to Drop Unrealistic Expectations and Actually Make Progress…

Ever felt like you should have your whole life figured out by now? Like, you should already have the dream career, perfect body, Pinterest-worthy home, and the ability to wake up at 5 AM for meditation, journaling, and a green smoothie—every single day? Yeah, that’s an unrealistic expectation. Unrealistic expectations trick us into believing we should be superhuman, and when reality doesn’t match up, we’re left feeling like we’ve failed. The problem isn’t you—it’s the impossible standards that leave you exhausted, frustrated and stuck in a cycle of disappointment.


One common belief that leads to setting unrealistic expectations is thinking, “If I just try harder, I can make everything perfect.” But perfection isn’t real, and trying harder won’t magically create an ideal life overnight. Instead, it creates stress, self-doubt, and burnout. The truth is, success (and happiness) comes from consistency, not perfection. So, what’s the solution? Start by setting realistic expectations. Break big goals into small, achievable steps, and celebrate progress instead of perfection. Life isn’t about getting everything right—it’s about growing and learning along the way.

Now, it’s time for a little self-reflection! Grab a journal and write about where you’ve been setting unrealistic expectations for yourself. What impossible standards have been holding you back? Once you’ve uncovered them, pick one small, doable step toward your goal—something simple, like dedicating 10 minutes to a new habit instead of an hour. The key is action, not overwhelm! Let go of the pressure and start embracing progress over perfection.

Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…