Category: mindful

Escape the Desperation Trap: Find Your Confidence Today…

My Traveling Friends, there was a man named Jack who felt really desperate in his life. He had lost just lost his job, his family was struggling, and he didn’t have enough money topay the bills. Every day felt like a race against time, and he didn’t know how to make things better. He started to feel like there was no hope and no way out of his situations.

Guys, this story made be fiction, and yet for millions of individuals this is the story of their life. There are individuals out there that have just lost their jobs, struggling to make ends meet, going through a divorce, dating and so badly wanting to be married, etc… And they are allowing the feelings of desperation dictate their behaviors, which is creating and recreating a life that continues to feel hopeless.

Is this your story too? Have you ever felt like Jack? What did you do to try to fix it? Or maybe you didn’t have a clue where to start.

If you are reading this blog that means it found you and this information will be the start of you seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Let’s talk…

Being desperate means feeling like you need something so babdly that you’ll do almost anything to get it. It’s when you feel like you have no options left and you’re willing to take any chance to fix your problem. Being desperate in life maeans feeling trapped and hopless in different parts of your life. It can make you do things that aren’t good for you because you’re trying to solve your problems quickly. All in an effort to get out of the pain of desperation.

Let’s look at some examples:

  1. Career: Imagine you’re working really hard at your job, but you’re not getting the promotion you desire. You start feeling desperate. You just might quit your jobs without having another job lined up or you may start taking on too much work trying to impress your boss.
  2. Friendship Issues: If you’re feeling lonely, you might do anything to make friends. This could mean
  3. Money Problems: Imagine you really need money to pay for something important. You might take a job you don’t like or even think about borrowing money frompeople you shouldn’t, just to solve the problem fast.

One big belief that makes people act desperately is thinking, “I’m not good enough.” When you believe this, you feel like you have to prove yourself all the time, which can lead to making bad choice just to show that you’re worthy and to get approval from others.

Feeling desperate can make life really hard and it doesn’t have to be a part of your life forever. You can learn how to handle tough situations better and make smarter decisions by working with me inside the Confidence Mindset Program. The Confidence Mindset Program is a 1-on-1 coaching program that will cause you to challenge your belief systems that are holding you back and empower you with prinicples that will teach you how to control your emotions, believe in yourself, and find better solutions when life gets hard.

Ready to stop feeling desperate and startfeeling confident?

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Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey

My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!! We made it into 2017, and that is something that we all need to thank the Lord for because soooooooo many people did not make it into 2017. Thank you Lord for ordering our step through 2016 and into 2017, and I pray that you continue to order our steps in 2017. I know that it has been awhile since my last post and I now that you all are wondering what has happen with me on this journey. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days

Guys, I have so much to talk about that I don’t know where to start. So, I guess I should start at the beginning right? Right…. Well, guys I was laid off from my job of 11 years (Westwood College closed their doors). Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 694 Days-1Year 362 Days”

My Weight Lost Journey: Day 422-1 year and 57 days

I have been on my weight lost journey for little over 1 year now, and I must say there have been a lot of ups and downs, and some eye opening moments. And all of the ups and downs and eye opening moments have helped me to begin to understand and love my body. So, of course I have to share some of the frustrations that I have encountered while on this journey, because I don’t want people to believe that it is an easy journey I want to be real with everyone that reads my blog.

Soooooo, I will start from day 1; the day I made the decision to walk into Weight Watchers and start the journey. I was so depressed and I knew I needed to change my lifestyle but all I heard (in my mind) was that it was not going to work and this would be a waste of my money. But I walked into the meeting and began my journey. A month into the journey the weight was just coming off with little activity, I was just doing what I was told to do. But as the days turned into months it began to get harder for the weight to come off, and I could not figure out why. I start working out more, but I also began to go over on my allotted points and guess what, the weight began to come back. So, I began to get mad at myself (because I was over eating) and I was mad at the program because I did not think it was working. But I continue to go to the meetings and track what I was eating. While I was tracking I began to notice that I was a late night snacker and that I had to get that under control if I was going to continue to lose weight. I cut  out certain foods and I worked out 6 days a week, and still  I was gaining weight. As the weight continue to come back, in spite of what I was doing, I began to get more frustrated. But I continued to go to the meetings and track what I was eating, in spite of my frustrations. And then one day I woke up (mentally) and made the decision to stop snacking at night. Once I made that decision I began to see it on the scale, but I don’t get too excited because I have learned that I need to stay focus on the overall goal and not just the short term goal that was accomplished. Now some of you may say that I should celebrate, but the reason why I don’t do it too big when a short term goal is met is because I go over board with it and then the achieved goal is null and void because I gained the weight back. Let me try to explain what I mean about me going over board.

I have learned, while on this journey, that I really can’t just eat whatever I want when I want because I will gain weight. Which is so frustrating because I want to be able to eat a cheese burger and ice cream (regular ice cream) and not gain weight. But during this journey when I have met a goal weight that I set for myself I would get soooo happy and tell myself that it is okay to have the ice cream and cookies (but I would have 2 bowels instead of 1 bowel) and then I would get weighted in at Weight Watchers and I would up a 1 lb or 3 lbs, and shame, angry, and frustration would come-then negative mind talk would happen-then the cycle would continue. See-overboard….

Losing weight can be sooooo frustrating because there are ups and downs, and at times there can be more downs then ups but you have to make up in your mind to continue to make the right choices (working out, being active, and making health food choices) and the weight will come off. But during the tough times( the downs) you have to be able to motive yourself, so I would suggest finding some positive quotes and putting them up where you will be sure the see them, and look at them daily. My faith in God kept me moving forward (staying active, working out 6 days a week, being mindful of what I eat) during the time when the weight was coming back. I am not out of the woods yet, but I have gain more clarity on why I ended up over weight in the first place and I am willing to work through them to reach my weight lost goal. Until next time…..