My Traveling Friends, there was a man named Jack who felt really desperate in his life. He had lost just lost his job, his family was struggling, and he didn’t have enough money topay the bills. Every day felt like a race against time, and he didn’t know how to make things better. He started to feel like there was no hope and no way out of his situations.
Guys, this story made be fiction, and yet for millions of individuals this is the story of their life. There are individuals out there that have just lost their jobs, struggling to make ends meet, going through a divorce, dating and so badly wanting to be married, etc… And they are allowing the feelings of desperation dictate their behaviors, which is creating and recreating a life that continues to feel hopeless.
Is this your story too? Have you ever felt like Jack? What did you do to try to fix it? Or maybe you didn’t have a clue where to start.
If you are reading this blog that means it found you and this information will be the start of you seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Let’s talk…
Being desperate means feeling like you need something so babdly that you’ll do almost anything to get it. It’s when you feel like you have no options left and you’re willing to take any chance to fix your problem. Being desperate in life maeans feeling trapped and hopless in different parts of your life. It can make you do things that aren’t good for you because you’re trying to solve your problems quickly. All in an effort to get out of the pain of desperation.
Let’s look at some examples:
Career: Imagine you’re working really hard at your job, but you’re not getting the promotion you desire. You start feeling desperate. You just might quit your jobs without having another job lined up or you may start taking on too much work trying to impress your boss.
Friendship Issues: If you’re feeling lonely, you might do anything to make friends. This could mean
Money Problems: Imagine you really need money to pay for something important. You might take a job you don’t like or even think about borrowing money frompeople you shouldn’t, just to solve the problem fast.
One big belief that makes people act desperately is thinking, “I’m not good enough.” When you believe this, you feel like you have to prove yourself all the time, which can lead to making bad choice just to show that you’re worthy and to get approval from others.
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Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey
Have you ever felt stuck between what used to be and what is coming next?
Life is like the weather, always changing. Sometimes, these changing are small, like a sunny day turning into a rainy afternoon. Other times, they are big, like summer changing into winter. These big changes are what we call transitional seasons. A transitional season is a time in life when something big is changing. It could be something exciting or something scary. They are times when our familiar routines are interrupted, and we are pushed out of our comfort zones. During these times, everything can feel different, and it might be hard to know what to do next. Transitional seasons challenge our current identity and often force us to redefine our goals, values, and priorities.
My Traveling Friends, forgiveness of self is one of the most powerful yet challenging journeys you will embark upon. It’s an act of courage, compassion, and deep inner work that will transform your lives. At least that is what I experience when I took the challenging journey of forgiving myself of the past hurt that I caused to myself. And it is for this reason that I want to explore why self-forgiveness is essential, what might hold us back, and how we can begin this transformative process.
I am curious, have you ever held onto guilt or regret for something you did in the past? How did it affect your daily life and your self-esteem? I ask these questions because I myself held onto guilt for something that Idiin the past and because of the guilt it was hard for memto hold my head up high, it was hard for me to see myself the way God sees me. And out of that guilt I did not make wise decision for my life. Forgiveness was to key to my freedom, and forgiveness is the key to your freedom too.
My Traveling Friends, have you ever caught yourself making sweeping statements about a group of people or assuming that one experience defines an entire category? Well, this tendency, which is commonly known as generalizing, is a common cognitive shortcut that can lead to misunderstandings and unfair judgements. And I found myself doing this common cognitive shortcut with the men I have been meeting on my dating journey. I was called out on it, and I thought to myself, how many people are generalizing people and experiences in an effort to protect themselves from being hurt? So, let’s talk about.
In this post, I will explore what generalizing means, why people do it, and how to overcome this habit to foster better connections and understanding.
Generalizing refers to the act of applying a belief or characteristic of a specific person or situation to an entire group or category. It’s a cognitive process where the brain simplify complex information by categorizing and drawing conclusions based on limited evidence or experiences.
My Traveling Friends, imagine meeting a very rude person from a particular background and assuming that everyone from that background is also rude. Or what if you witnessed one negative event and begin to believe that all similar situations will have the same outcome. Generalizing often involves making broad, sweeping statements that ignore individual differences and nuances.
So, why do people generalize people and experience ? Well here are several reasons why people tend to generalize:
Cognitive Efficiency: Our brains seek to conserve energy by forming quick judgements based on limited information.
Previous Experiences: Past encounters or cultural influences can shape our beliefs about certain groups or situations.
Confirmation Bias: We my seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs, leading to further generalizations.
Emotional Responses: Strong emotions such as fear or anger can fuel generalizations as a way to simplify complex emotions.
Ultimately, people generalize people and situations in an effort to keep themselves safe from hurt and pain.
Eventhough, many of us generalize people and experiences as a defense mechanism, the fact is there is not real benefits to generalizing people and experiences. In actuality, when you generalize people and experiences you cause more harm to yourself and others. When we generalize people and experiences we really blur lines of truth and untruth, fact and fiction, reality and delusion.
However, there are some benefits to not generalizing people and experiences. When you avoid generalization it can lead to improved relationships. By focusing on individual characteristics rather than stereotypes, you can build more meaningful connections. Avoiding generalization can lead to increased empathy, as you will see people as unique individuals and develop empathy and understanding. It also leads to better decision-making, and it reduced bias.
In order to move past generalizing people and experiences, your belief/mindset must change. A crucial belief shift to stop generalizing is recognizing that each person and experience is unique. Instead of assuming, approach each encounter with an open mind and a willingness to learn.
My Traveling Friends here are fours key steps to overcoming generalization:
Awareness: Start becoming aware of your own generalizations. Notice when you make assumptions about people or situations.
Challenge Your Beliefs: Question the validity of your generalizations. Ask yourself – Are they based on facts or stereotypes?
Seek Diverse Perspectives: Engage with people from different backgrounds and experiences to broaden your understanding.
Practice Empathy: Put yourself in other’s shoes and strive to understand their individual stories and perspectives.
Generalizing people and experiences is a common cognitive shortcut that can hinder empathy, understanding, and meaningful connections. It is used as a defense mechanism for many people. However, by challenging your beliefs, seeking diverse perspectives, and practicing empathy, you can overcome generalizations and foster a more inclusive and compassionate mindset. Are you ready to take the first step towards a confident and open mindset? If you’re ready to break free from the habit of generalizing and develop a more confident and open mindset, I want to invite you to schedule a consultation call for the Confidence Mindset Program. It is a 1-on-1 coaching program that is designed to help individuals overcome limiting beliefs and embrace a more positive and inclusive worldview.
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Until Next Time Remember That Life Is But A Journey…
In a world where instant gratification often reigns supreme, the notion that the journey is supoosed to be hard might seem counterintuitive. We’re bomdarded with messages about quick fixes, overnight success stories, and shortcuts to happiness. Yet, beneath the surface lies a timeless truth, a truth that I embraced, and that is growth, transformation, and true fulfillment often emerge from challenges and adversity. What if the journey is suppose to be hard in order for us to become who we need to become?
In this post, I will be exploring why the journey is supposed to be hard and just how embracing its difficulties can lead to profound personal development and success.
My Beloved Traveling Friends, I find myself looking back over the year of 2023, and I really wanted to share with you all some of the lessons that I learned from this most transformative year. It is a fact that 2023 was a very emotionally draining, year for me. I found myself in a wilderness seasons, looking back asking myself “How did I get here?” And I noticed that when I asked myself that question, how did I get here questions, I felt so hopeless and lost, I felt broken, and not enough. Guys, this question did not bring me any type of knowledge, this question caused me to feel like a victim. However, I got so tired of feeling like that; of feeling like I did not have any power in the situation. That is when I decided to ask myself a different question, and that was – “What can I learn from this situation to become a better me?”
It was only when I began to look at the ebbs and flows of life through the lens of evolving, instead of being a victim of the situation, that is when I realized that change in the one constant thing in the world, and it’s how I response to that change that creates my life. And with that being said – here are the 5 lessons that I learned from the classroom of 2023:
Lesson 1: Change Is The One Constant Thing In This World – This world is evolving so quickly, people, thing, amd places change all the time. I had to learn how to embrace change in order for me to grow as a person. In the past years, I stayed stuck in certain situations because I did not accept that things had changed. And that stopped me from growing as a person. In this classroom 2023, I knew that I could not stay behind anymore because God gave me a glimpse of my future and not being able to move was not apart of the glimpse. God will call me to move and move quickly, and in order to do that I had to learn how to embrace change because Change Is The One Constant Thing In This World. Remember that like the seasons, life transitions demand adaptation and resilience and this will only happen if you too learn to embrace change.
Lesson 2: What You Focus On Grows – This year really showed me to power of my focus. Guys, our attention is a powerful force, and where we direct our focus determines the energy we attract. Now you guys are probably wondering how did I learn this lesson, and thank you for being so curious. During this year I really paid attention to how I felt and the thoughts that I was thinking when I was feeling a certain way. So, when I felt bad, hopeless, sad, frustrating, or any negative emotion I noticed that I was focusing on something negative. And that negative thought was growing within my body, which was causing me to react instead of responding. And then I had to start looking back over my entire life, and I realized that I planted a lot of negativity and that seed had be bring forth fruit. It could be that in 2023, I was reaping the harvest of some of the negative seed that I sown over the years. So, moving forward I must reframe the story and focus on the positive outcome that is also possible even in the midst of a negative situation. 2023 showed me the potency of focusing on positivity and opportunities, watching them flourish and multiply; after all What You Focus on Grows.
Lesson 3: Everyone and Everything Cannot Go With You – Guys, I truly believe that this lesson was an extermely hard lesson for me to learn because I want everything to stay the same and everyone to come along with me, and it is because I want to stay in a confort zone. However, 2023 showed me that everything and everyone cannot come with me to the next level. There is a season for every person and thing, so I had to really learn that endings are neccessary because there are some elements are better left behind. Letting go is not a sign a weakness but an act of empowerrment because I am making room for new connections and opportunities. Endings are neccessary because – Eveyone and Everything Cannot Go With You…
Lesson 4: Learn To Mind Your Business – Be Quiet – This lesson was an invaluable lesson for me to learn. Learning to stay in your lane, mind your buisness, and be quiet was difficult for me because I always want things and people get along and be at peace. But in doing this I was causing myself unneeded stress becasue I was taking on others people problems instead of allowing those people to figure it out. I realized that I was an enabler instead of a healer. Being in the classroom of 2023, I realized minding my business, staying in my lane, and keeping quiet is a practice of self-care. This practice enables me to nurture my own mind, which allows me to grow on a personal level and fulfill myself. God showed me in 2023 that not everything or everyone is my problem or assignment, and that when He say mind your business and be quiet I must obey. So,yeah – Mind Your Business and Be Quiet…
Lesson 5: Find The Light and Let It Shine – In the midst of life’s challenges, it’s crucial to find and amplify the light that is in the situation. Learning to reframe the story of the situation is what finding the light is all about. When you turn on the light in a dark situation that darkness has to fleet, and 2023 taught me that. The problem is that the darkness can be so scary and it does take courage to find the light and let it shine. Learning this lesson allowed me to illuminate my path and it also becomes a beacon of inspiration for others. Therefore guys, I encourage you all to Find The Light and Let It Shine.
The classroom of 2023 has taught me so many things and every lesson learned this year leads me right back to the biggest lesson of them all – Trust and Be Confident In God, because ultimately He is the One that gives you the ability to accomplish it all. Lessons 1-5 leads me back to putting my faith in God in all situations.
Now those are my lessons, I want to hear from you all – What did 2023 teach you that you will use to evolve in 2024?
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GOD is good……. Okay guys remember when I said that I decided to let God guide me on my weight lost journey instead of doing it the world’s way, and all I can say is that my GOD is good. So, it has been a full week since I started to continue my weight lost journey with God and I see results on the scale. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 299 Days”
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!! We made it into 2017, and that is something that we all need to thank the Lord for because soooooooo many people did not make it into 2017. Thank you Lord for ordering our step through 2016 and into 2017, and I pray that you continue to order our steps in 2017. I know that it has been awhile since my last post and I now that you all are wondering what has happen with me on this journey. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: 2 Years and 295 Days”
Okay guys you all have waited long enough, so here I go. July 1, 2016 was my first official golf day-I learned how to play the game. If you viewed my video then you all know that I was very nervous about playing golf with veteran golfers, and I almost did not go. Continue reading “My Weight Lost Journey: Golf Day”
